Acupuncture support for infertility – The journey to conceive a baby is emotionally draining and physically exhausting.
I would like to start with this statement: I believe there are no easy answers with the emotional turmoil during the fertility journey. Some days will bad. Some days will be ok. Some days you will completely forget anything is going on.
The idea of surrender and embracing the worst fears of the situation is a progression requiring emotional stamina. I’ve seen women eaten up and destroyed, left bitter and angry. Others gain insight into themselves and develop emotional strength.
The transformation will be different for everyone. It will feel unique to each women, thus read the next paragraph with a broad view. Replace words or feelings that resonate with you.
Have you been given the “old ovaries” speech and it’s repeating in your mind? A different thought could be “I’m scared. I want a baby and I have no control over it”. It acknowledges the real emotion and places no limit on the outcome. Rethinking the negative into a neutral statement is empowering. It has no promises nor puts you down, yet it allows the fearful/hurt part of yourself to be recognized.
Sitting with true feelings of fear and scarcity is the easiest hard lesson of life.
Generally, fearful, scared women react by over controlling. The controlling part allows the mind to focus on other issues – mostly issues outside of the women’s mind. Controlling allows the true uncomfortable feelings to be ignored. Yet, just under the surface is the truth. Hyper controlling women usually suffer from emotional burnout the fastest and have the hardiest time seeing any joy in life. Controlling actions constrain and limit the heart from being in connection with life – the good and bad feelings. Sometimes just sitting down and experiencing a strong sad feeling is very empowering. The constraint opens up and suddenly there’s nothing to control.
Letting go is one of the hardest lessons in life. The idea of control is like vapor. Control feels like it has physical form. Yet the form disappears just as you grasp for it. Sometimes control leads to the hamster on wheel mind. Running in circles, going nowhere. Modern society focuses on the internet. Read as much as you can. If you can understand everything then somehow the answers will come to you. All the time draining your energy, leaving you depleted.
I am frequently asked “Am I able to have a baby?”. I don’t know when or if someone will conceive. Yes, even the acupuncturist wishes and hopes for clients to be blessed with a baby. For me personally I have surrendered the final decision to a bigger dynamic. I surrender to the possibility of conception to a higher place. However you would like to call it – Jesus, God, Buddha or higher consciousness. I do everything in my power to assist the couple in their journey, though I knowledge my control can only go so far.
Often the clients, who handle the emotional journey with a healthier view, relinquish their power to the higher power. The fabric of life is truly a mystery and some incidents in life make no sense. Often the answers and control are out of our reach.
Sounds so easy in words…..doesn’t it??? I know from my own life, it was the hardest experience I have ever had. Remember to gather a support team (acupuncturist, therapist, friends and family) who understand these keys elements and will walk with you on the journey. Finding your way through this will have no right or wrong answers. Your journey will be your own, but neither do you need to be alone.